The Differences Between Raising Singletons and Twins

The Differences Between Raising Singletons and Twins

I just found this blog post from last year on Tales of a Twin Mum. It’s about the differences between raising one baby and twins. I think she sums it up nicely, and makes some great points about the challenges of each. Since twins are my only experience thus far, it’s nice to get a little perspective. 

I’d love to know your thoughts. 

6 thoughts on “The Differences Between Raising Singletons and Twins

  1. I think my challenge is that I have one of each! Really though, I think that’s comparing apples and oranges. For me, my twins were #2 and #3 and I found them way easier than my single. It had nothing to do with numbers, but experience. I had zero when I had him and tons with the twins. Likewise, I am sure if I had twins again I would fall apart because I already have three young kids to take care of! It was a good post though. Cheers.

  2. That’s true, I’m sure experience is a major factor 🙂 In general, if I had the choice I think I’d prefer starting with the one and then moving to the two. Two sets of twins is insanity to think about.

  3. Having two babies has been tough–and I feel like I’ve been cataloguing the (hypothetical) differences for months now. (In fact, it’s one of my dozens of half-finished drafts.)

    But the most surprising thing about twins (and ours are admittedly pretty good babies, temperament-wise) is that the idea of just one baby sounds kind of boring and lonely!

    In theory I may want another baby in a few years. I do like the idea of having a one-baby experience. But since my twins were naturally conceived and I’d be past 35, there would be even more ‘risk’ of another set of twins! Gah!

  4. I know what you mean, we were completely blindsided by having twins, and I’d have the same worry if we wanted another baby. The idea of two sets of twins is pretty terrifying to me. Anyway just now, coming off a pretty traumatic pregnancy and infant twins I think I’m good for the time being. I don’t think one baby sounds boring, though, but the lonely part (for the baby) I could see, especially if they had twins as siblings. Thanks for commenting!

  5. We were foster parents to singleton babies before adopting our twins, giving us a very odd experience of having parented a solo baby, but now having twins, but not having an older singleton. Twins are so much more work! Things that were do-able with one baby just aren’t feasible with two…

    I watch our friends post pictures of their singleton toddlers sitting atop a tall stool, drinking out of a glass. My partner said “uh-oh…we don’t let our toddlers sit on stools or drink out of glasses…are we doing this wrong?” It’s just a different level of chaos with two. Of course they would BOTH want to sit on stools, and then one would fall off. One would start splashing the water out of the glass, then the other would copy, both glasses would end up broken, one or both kids would end up on the floor…

    I think in some ways, parents of twins just don’t have the luxury of letting their kids explore as much until slightly older. Or maybe I’m just lazy. 🙂

    • That sounds about right. I think twins don’t get to do a lot of things a solo baby could because of the chaos factor. The trade off for them is they have each other.

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